I was driving to work the other day and the guy on the radio was talking about Father’s Day. He asked people to call in and answer the question, “What is something your Dad told you that you’ve always remembered? Something that just really sticks with you.” I knew my answer immediately.
When I was 21, I got dumped by a boyfriend (very thankful to him for that now). I was so devastated, ugly crying, the whole works. Shortly after that I went on a dinner date with my Dad. We were talking and I told him how sad I was and that I wanted the time to pass. I wanted to get to where I could feel better. He said a lot of Dad type encouraging things and then, “You know honey, don’t wish the time away.” Back then I was like yeah, yeah. I mean, I got what he was saying but at that time I wasn’t the super smart lady that I am now.
I always remembered what he said but I didn’t really understand it until I met Blake. Living in the moment was something I had to learn how to do and I used that phrase every single day after her diagnosis. I’m totally convinced now that my Dad was right and it’s a better way to live. I try my very best to take a deep breath and soak it in (whatever it is) as many times a day as I can remember. I channel my inner Dad and tell myself don’t wish the time away.
It’s hard not to wish time away, I get it. We’re all human and sometimes this is just what we do. I can’t wait until bedtime. Only two more weeks until vacation. Once the kids get a little older they won’t need so much. I’m not as good as I want to be and I still get wrapped up in things that I shouldn’t. I try though and I think that’s the best we can do!
What is something you remember from your Dad?