Jeff and I get this question repeatedly: My ____ just lost their ___, what can I do? The question varies but usually includes death, a terminal diagnosis, some kind of very difficult path. I’m grateful people have trusted me with answering those questions and decided to ask my Instagram peeps what specific questions they have… Continue reading Grief Support Q&A
I was scrolling through Facebook the other night, which I do too often, when I saw a quote that someone shared. It was shared in a foster/adoption group so the reference was clearly to children. Before my rant, I want to mention that I don’t think that’s what this quote was intended for originally. I also… Continue reading You can’t replace
If you’ve been with me here for a while, based on the title, you already know what I might say. If you don’t agree with me that’s just fine. I can only speak to my experience (along with tons of professional opinions I’ve gathered). People ask me questions about talking to kids about losing a… Continue reading Talking to kids about death
Most loss parents dread the question, “How many children do you have?” I am one of them. I. Hate. It. Seriously, every single time I get that awful feeling of so much sadness and not knowing what to say. Do I tell them all about my family and accept the discomfort and look of terror… Continue reading Parenting
A very kind person made a comment to me the other day. She had looked at some of my Facebook photos and then said, “I’m so glad to see you are happy now after all you’ve been through.” That one really got me thinking. How do you measure happiness? Smiling for a photo? Laughing at… Continue reading Happy now?
This space of mine has been neglected lately. Between home life, my day job and The Sunshine Co., I feel like I’m going in a million directions. There are so many things that will stop me in my tracks because of my grief. So far, one of those things just happens to be dates. Today,… Continue reading Diagnosis day take 3
We decided to take a little vacation. We’ve taken some sort of vacation before each of our babies were born. This time we ended up closer to home, on a lake with perfect weather and lots for Kenley to do. We’ve really needed a break with everything going on. I had forgotten how much work… Continue reading Vacation and Anniversary
This is something I wrote for the newsletter of a local support group, Parents of Puget Sound Support. They offer resources for families in the Pacific Northwest who have lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth or in infancy. I thought I would share here too. It was the day of my daughter’s Celebration of Life.… Continue reading Never the same
It was this time last year when doctors finally started listening to me. We got confirmation, after what felt like forever, that something “wasn’t normal (I hate this word)” with Blake’s development. Facebook has been reminding me of appointments, cryptic worry and all the unknowns during that time. It brings up more questions like, “Why… Continue reading A year ago
For multiple reasons, I try to avoid talking about some things on here. I don’t want to make people feel worse for us. I want to show there are positives that still happen and I’m still grateful, always. Greater than my desire to show positives, though, is my trying to remain truthful. My struggle is,… Continue reading What is it like?